He Was So Desperate for a child He made His Wife Sleep With His Own Father

This man story we shock you so much that you we feel like rain insult on him for his actions...

I am 35, my wife is a year younger. We've been married for seven years but have been trying for a baby without success.

We both got checked out and I was told the problem was mine and untreatable. Our only options were sperm donation or adoption.

We decided to go  with the donor option. My parents were supportive and willing to help with the cost, but we had no luck. My wife was beside herself and this had an impact on our relationship, and on my work as I found it hard to concentrate.

Once again my parents were supportive. They adopted me as a baby so they understood the longing for a child, but what they said next took me by surprise. They asked how I’d feel if my dad helped my wife to conceive.

My wife was also shocked. Initially she turned the idea down point blank but I convinced her we had no option. We still had our doubts though, as my dad is in his sixties and I did not know if he could still perform.

We decided the risk would be worth it and we’d go ahead, though we were both nervous. She had never been with another man.

He took her into the spare room to have se̊x but I was having second thoughts by then. I could hear them both moaning and the bed creaking. I couldn’t stand it so left the house.

She has never made noises in my bed and this leaves me feeling incompetent. I keep wondering if he is better endowed than me. I regret it all but I don’t know how to put the clock back.

TRUE CONFESSION: Man Pays N900,000 Cash To A Pr-st-tute For 30 Days, See What Happened After That..

This was a story of a young girl who need money so bad to meet her immediate needs....

This is a true life story. It all happened in delta state, a man whose name is withheld went to a bar to relax and have a drink. On getting to the bar, he took more than expected and became tipsy.saw a beautiful girl, who was a commercial s-x worker, he called her bought her a bottles drink. After that both of them bargained the price for just a night, the girl said, he is to pay N12,000 for the night.

The  commercial s-x worker whose name is also withheld who happened to be a graduate  in  one of the institutions in the State. They left based on agreement, on getting to the man place, the man paid N900,000 cash to have her for 30 days(1 month).She was surprised and shocked. She took the money, had fun that night, and when it was morning, they exchanged contacts and she left.

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She left the man's place, she refused to come back for days and bridged the contracts, because this was not what they bargained. The gentle man refuse to call her as well for days, she later started feeling guilty, picked up her phone and dialled the man"s number. The man picked and she  apologised to him for not coming for some days.

She asked the man, if she could come immediately, he agreed. Less than an hour, she came and apologise once again. The man said to her, i have nothing against you, i saw you that night, and i feel something for you,but let me not call it  love yet. I didn't really know how it happened, THAT WAS WHY I DID WHAT I DID. She cried and feel into the arms of the man, and asked him a question. HOW CAN YOU TRUST AND  LOVE A S-X WORKER? What kind of man are you? with tears rolling down her eyes.The man replied, i once loved a decent girl, she broke my heart badly, despite what i did for her. So nothing you will do to me now, will make me die or regret again falling in-love with you.

 Tears continue to flow from the eyes of the girl, and she said with this act, i will stop being a s-x worker, please follow me to the bank and have the remains of your money. I only spent N160,000 out of it. Am happy you said you are going to stop being a s-x worker,you can also keep the money, its yours. They feel in love and started dating immediately. Am happy to tell you that, they are engaged and seriously in love with each other.

Food for thought ,some funny acts can make people change.you still have a chance for a better life ,if really you are willing to change for good.

PLEASE HELP:Another Woman is After My Man

A regular reader of this blog post this to us via our email today,she really needs you advise about her relationship, and please kindly give your advise please....

I am confused  and I need advice. My fiance(we are planning to get married next year) and I  attend a fellowship together,we hold leadership positions. There  is this girl that attends the fellowship,she  is tripping badly that people have noticed,someone even called her to order.

Just Recently,I noticed he deleted his a chat on bbm with her. I confronted  and he said the convo was inappropriate. I told him that as a leader,there shouldn't be such familiarity with these people  and he apologised. He said she was just telling him about her toasters  and I made it clear to him that she  is only telling him that she  is hot that he would Бέ foolish not to want her.

She also started calling/pinging me recently,at the end of every convo she wud ask of my fiance. She went to his workplace area  and tried to set up a date with him but he didnt go cos he was busy. She  is getting bolder by the day,what do I do?

Main Reasons Why Women Cheat

Some say is just the nature of women to cheat because they want more than what their boyfriend or husband is giving them....well lets see some of the main reasons below...

1. Women cheat because they are human

Okay so of course the debate became more about whether women cheat more than men and we couldn't come to a conclusion. But, we did agree that either party could cheat because they are human and make mistakes. Being a woman doesn't come with an anti-cheating chip…

2. Women cheat because they are bored

With time on the hands or even with a table full of projects, boredom can set in. Craving something interesting or different can lead to a partner that strays.

3. Women cheat to revenge!

‘Been cheated on; will cheat’ is similar to ‘Been hurt Will hurt’ mantra some people hold. Anger or hurt can lead people down a revenge path!

4. Women cheat because something is missing.

It might be something that used to be there or was never there and then you meet someone who brings it.

5. Women cheat when they get what they want

Let me explain! Sometimes you know what it is you want exactly. You may even be dating or married to the man of your dreams. And then one day you breathe and realise you have what you want so…what next?!

6. Women cheat because they also give in to temptation.

I always laugh when some of my male friends talk about how they can’t resist temptation and that’s why men can’t be monogamous. I ask about women and they say, of course women can be. Truth is, the average girl stays monogamous because she chooses to and sticks to that. Just like guys, girls get tempted.

It’s that colleague at work that sometimes does push ups when you walk by, or the helpful neighbour you bump into in the mornings or the friend you've always known who now suddenly becomes single, flirty, and possibly sexy…

7. Women cheat to pay the bills

As controversial as this may come across, some women make the decision to cheat in order to get ahead in some way, or for financial reasons like paying the bill, or ‘paying’. 

8. Women cheat because they like adventure

 Doing something you shouldn't be doing! Maybe you’ll get caught, but that’s what makes it even more irresistible! Planning your schedule, meeting up in strange places, looking over your shoulder!!! Woohoo! Your best spy has nothing on a woman who’s cheating (or for that matter, who suspects you’re cheating).

SEE Things Nigerian Women Hate About Men

It we be very helpful if the guys can read this article,it we really help in building your relationship with your woman.knowing what she like and what she doesn't like.

Men aren't the only ones who get turned off by some attitudes or behaviours in their spouses, women feel this way too and even though she might not voice it, she does feel it.

If you do any of the things listed below as a man, then it is time to change cos your woman is certainly not feeling it…

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~Noise making: just as a man loves his woman to act like a lady, a woman also loves her boo to act like a gentleman. If you aren’t a bus driver/conductor then why in God’s name do you act like that behind the wheels? Why do you yell at every passing vehicle in traffic? Why do you raise your voice in public? Why do you create unnecessary attention to yourself wherever you go? What’s wrong with you? If your spouse isn’t a pepper seller or a local woman from your village, then trust me, she’s hating that part of you deep inside.

~Dressing: oh trust me I have seen grown men sagging. And I always wonder, are they out of their freaking minds? I have also seen grown men, walk around in clothes Wiz kid and Davido (and the rest of the music gangsters wear) would wear and it seriously makes me wonder.

You know why Wiz kid dresses the way he does? Well cos he’s wiz KID. And Davido says he’s 20 so yes, he’s still allowed to dress however.

You see my friend, when you are grown, everything including your style grows with you. You ditch the Kanye like gangster clothes for Jay Z/Dare art Alade like clothes. Yes, clothes for grown ups become your style. You ditch the saggy jeans for a clean-cut suit and dress like a grown up.

~Dirty men: some men can wear the same underwear for days without washing them. How far na?

~Liar: a man who lies is unattractive to a woman. No woman wants to have to check everytime to know if her man is being truthful or not. There are so many important things in life that one has to worry about. A lying man shouldn’t be one of them.

~Drunk men: no woman wants a man who hangs out with his friends, gets drunk and starts acting irrational. That’s childish, that’s ridiculous and that’s unappealing.

~Over-protectiveness: yes, a woman wants you to care. No, a woman doesn’t want you breathing down her neck everytime. She needs you to trust her, back off already.

~Promiscuity: no woman in love wants to share her man. None whatsoever. If as a man you can’t keep your hands off the cookie jar, a woman would find you too risky to be with. 

SEE 8 Reasons Why Men Are Not Eager To Get Married

Have you ever thought about that your friend,uncle,brother and family.that by now  his suppose to have been settled down with his family having and building good home but still they are not thinking about it?

We have many such people around us,but we must no that something is the cause of such attitude.

HERE are the 8 reasons why men are not eager to get married below,,,,,

1. They can get s3x without marriage:

One major point, which hinders some men, is the ability to know that they can made love without marriage because our lady have made s3x so cheat that men is even talking them for granted.This concept often makes them think less of marriage. When it comes to this point, you will realized that women will be the one eager to get married before s3x while if the man needs s3x, he just get another girl, done and dupe her just like that and this makes them think less of marriage.

2. The benefits of having a wife by cohabiting rather than marrying: 

A man may be reluctant to think of marriage when he thinks he can ask for a female friend to come live with him. In most cases the girl just accepts believing that it’s a way to express her love to the guy. Nothing is wrong with that but the problem now is that, the guy gets all the benefit of marriage while unmarried. You will even see that in some instances,many even have kids even without ligally married to the baby mama. It  happen sall the time,

3. They want to avoid divorce and financial risk: 

Many men are just generally scared of the word marriage ,Some men are afraid of the ideal of getting married due to the obstacles that come later in it, probably because they saw an example from their parents or others and not want to fall another victim in this regard. Also the inability to get a stable source of income makes others to think less of marriage.

4. They expect to get older before having children:

This has to do mostly with young men. They expect to enjoy the benefit of youth and the good things that life offers after graduation before settling down for marriage. That is why if you decide to do a little research on this point, you will discover that the majority of young men are not eager to bear children. 

5. They fear of changes and compromise: 

Most of the time you will realize that a man just wants a wife probably to look good, provide great s3x, join in his day-to-day recreational activities and tell him he is wonderful. On the other hand women’s requirements are not very like that. They need to feel loved. They want a great conversationalist, a man who is funny, a good father for their children, someone who is attractive, a good s3xual partner, a man who is ambitiously successful and God fearing. In reality, most men are simply not that.

6. Waiting for a perfect match: 

This is another reason why you may see someone with all what it takes to get married but on the other hand he is not willing to. This point makes sense to me to a certain extend.men should learn that their is no perfect woman out there.

7. Further education:

The ability to acquire further knowledge hinders some men as well as women. They believed that in order for them to concentrate with studies, they don’t want to be disturb by family affairs or bearing the responsibility of children while in school.

8. They faced few social pressures to marry:

Concerning the issue of getting married, women are more eager than men probably because they’re faced with much pressure from parents, family members, friends etc. than men. If a girl’s friend gets married, she automatically wants to get married as well. I don’t know why, maybe it has to do with eternal pressures or comparison. But with the case of men, they take it in a gradual process taking their time.

So from the reasons above i guess you can see why most men find it hard to handle marriage..

10 Annoying Things About Being A Man

Being a man they say is not a easy job.....

When you see a woman slap a man on the street, chances are you didn’t think to yourself how awful it is that she resorted to violence; instead, you probably wonder what he did to deserve it.

Men also live with the constant expectation to be strong and to keep our issues to ourselves.

So we are able to bring out some of the annoying thing being a man.......

10. Hair Everywhere

Hair. Hair everywhere. On your neck. Down your back. On your chest and stomach. It varies from man to man, and, hey, some of it can be attractive or serve a purpose. The hair under your arms wicks sweat effectively. But what purpose do the hairs on your feet or knuckles serve, and why do some men have small bushes of hair coming out of their ears.

9. Random Er-ctions

One of life’s cruel ironies is that when you’re young and virile and pitching tents at every glimpse of bare skin — say, in high school math class — you’re less likely to be able to enjoy your virility. When you’re older and more established, more likely to have options, even something as routine as “getting it up” can be a problem.

8. Testicles Getting In The Way

Rare is the moment in the average man’s life when he can forget that he has a pair of balls dangling between his legs. If you own a laptop, you’ve probably wondered if having it on your lap will cook your sperm and lower your fertility. And you’ve definitely agonized over whether to go boxers or briefs.

7. Bad S-x Is Always The Man’s Fault

When it comes to s-x, the pressure is disproportionately on the man to perform. To begin with, he has to get it up, which is something heavily dependent on his level of attraction to the woman, his comfort, his health and, not least of all, his sobriety. So when we do, and it’s happening, why is it only our fault if it’s bad? Shocker alert: Women can be bad at s--x, too.

6. Mistaken For A craddle-robber

God forbid a father wants to walk hand-in-hand with his son or daughter, or take his child to the playground to play with other children. There is a culture of hysteria surrounding men and children that has made men afraid to be physical, to pick up, hug and cuddle their own kids. That’s just not fair.

5. Condoms

Condoms help prevent pregnancy and the spread of STDs. They also suck. A lot. They’re a hassle to buy in the appropriate size, they’re often difficult to put on and going through the process of opening the package tends to be a mood killer.

4. Getting Called A Creep By Women

The onus is on men to approach women. It’s our job to say hello to a total stranger who happens to catch our eye on the off chance that she’ll enjoy our company. And in that brief interaction, in a bar or club or coffee shop, things can go horribly, horribly wrong. The end result of your failed approach might mean the dreaded “creep” label (variants include “creeper” and “weirdo”), and nothing quite hurts a man’s pride, or his chances of approaching another woman, quite like being so negatively labelled.

3. The Fighting Double Standard

When it comes to fighting, there’s a terrible double standard at play. We are expected by society not to fight, to keep calm and find a non-violent resolution to conflict. But when the local bar bully is insulting your honor, or, worse, that of your girlfriend, there’s an expectation that you take him out back and beat some politeness into him. When confronted with this situation, a man has two choices: fight and be considered a violent Neanderthal  or don’t fight and be considered a wuss.

2. Getting Slapped In The Face

There’s one act of physical violence that gets used with alarming frequency: men getting slapped in the face. When you see a woman slap a man on the street, chances are you didn’t think to yourself how awful it is that she resorted to violence; instead, you probably wonder what he did to deserve it.

1. The Pain Of Getting Hit In the Groin

It happens in a split second and only lasts a few minutes at most, but those few minutes are filled with excruciating pain, cursing and the fleeting thought that maybe you've finally taken one too many shots to the groin to be able to have children.

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5 reasons why spouses cheat on each other

To some men they think is not too bad for them to cheat on their woman and yet they aspect they them to be very submissive to them all the time

This is one of the most important marital issues that really has to be addressed properly since it’s like the percentage of why spouses cheat on each other is fast growing up. Therefore, in this article, I intend to lay out some of the main causes for it, right? But there is one thing I have to be certain about which is the fact that I can’t make a mockery of myself by emphasizing that the points I will mention are the total causes for cheating, else, except you will be ready to read something forty times of this article.

A research was carried out after which it proofs that in every 100% of marriages, only about 28% of the spouses stick to each other which equally means that about 72% of spouses cheat on their partners.

5 reasons why spouses cheat on each other

 1   Inadequate s3xual satisfaction: Of all we are to talk about on this topic this is the most important one spouses cheat on each other, you will discover that, one way or another, it has to do with s3xual desires. This therefore means that, if one of the spouses’ main focuses behind the marriage was to satisfy this need, then without enough of it will certainly lead to cheating so as to satisfy this s3xual urge.

   2 Others were born under the star: If a child who grows up socially with the opposite s3x, the probability that this will continue in the nearest future is very high. For example, suppose a man who usually engaged in many forms of relationship with the opposite s3x decides to get married and bear children, what do you think will be the outcome of his marital status? The probability that he will at least return to his old life style is very high thereby cheating on the other partner. It’s no wonder why all the programs for family planning we have around emphasize on courtship before marriage. At least, this gives you the time to spot out certain negative and positive aspects of your spouse before marriage.

    3 Wrong company: Another reason why spouses cheat on each other is when he/she interacts with the wrong people. This is why it’s very normal for a spouse to be faithful and later develops certain strange criteria in their marriage. George was a faithful guy and he makes sure that he does everything humanly possible to secure his relationship with his girlfriend, Marylyn. They almost shared the good and bad moments together until George met Justlain who could not take from him and for Gorge to keep up with the friendship, he had to answer to Justlain’s ways. Not that long, George was as well a drunkard, chaser, and gambler just like his friend. Most of their parties were such that Marylyn could not attend and for George not to go contrary, he had to start hiring street girl. Now, the obvious question is that, what if George had not known Justlain or anyone such as Justlain, would he had cheated? Research also proofs that among the reasons as to why spouses cheat, wrong company highly contribute.

  4 Sudden change of attitudes: Another reason why spouses cheat on each other may be as a result of sudden change of characters. For example, a guy might find a certain girl attractive probably because she matches his love map and later on in the matrimonial home, he sees but the reverse of whom he thought was a soul mate and at this point, it’s totally certain he is disappointed, right? This is the point he starts cheating in order to get a replacement or someone who at least can provide what his spouse could not or what he fails to find in his partner.

   5 Change of circumstances: In this situation, a spouse cheats when he/she fails to meet up with the high 

expectation when the courtship was favorable and in most of this cases, it happens most with females. At first, Joe usually supplied everything to Prisca and even when they got married, the going was still smooth until when life turns the other way round for Joe as it was now difficult to make it up to Prisca. With the sort of treatment she got from Joe, it was now really hard to bear the situation and so, she starts engaging in secret relationships behind Joe’s knowledge. As you can see, as a result of change of circumstances, some spouses might cheat on their partners in order to satisfy their unmet needs but remember that a good spouse will always be there for you in times of pains.

Final say as to why spouses cheat on each other

As I mentioned above, there are many reasons why after expressing heart fell love to a partner, he/she tends to dupe you without any meaningful background. But I usually tell my students that, everything happens with a purpose. Without purpose nothing will exist.

Few Reasons Why Not to Date a Married Man

They are many reason why you shouldn't date a married man,but i love to tell you some of the major reasons not to even think of it.You deserve to be number one in the life of your man

ISOLATION: He will never introduce to you the most important people in his life,Your relationship has no validation from your loved ones. As a woman you will spend holidays such as Christmas alone. Those days are supposed to be special moments that last a lifetime.

ARE YOU READY TO LIVE A SECRET LIFE: In almost every society adultery is frowned upon. So if you are going to be the ‘other’ woman you must also be prepared for the fact that you will not be able to go to public places with this man. He will not let you hold his hands in public let alone kiss him. Every gift you buy for him, he will probably give out to someone else to avoid interrogation by her royal highness at home. He cannot introduce you to his kids, family or neighbour. Except for the few nights he lies that he has to be out-of-town, he will leave you to cuddle your pillow while he goes back to the warmth of his wife.

DATING A MARRIED MAN DAMAGES YOUR REPUTATION: Trust me the walls have ears, besides most philanderer (well that’s what the oracle called  your adulterous married lover) kiss and tell. It’s about conquest for most men. They tell their friends how they are still able to score a single lady despite knowing his marital status. Do not be a part of his statistic.

WASTE OF YOUR TIME AND ENERGY: Unfortunately this is the story of almost every woman who has had an affair with a married man. It takes its toll emotionally and after some time the woman discovers she has wasted the prime of her dating years on nothing but empty promises and date nights in applebees or ihops located in remote outskirts.

ONCE A CHEATER: The previous article says it all. In case you missed it, you can go back. If he cheats with you, its only a matter of time before he cheats on you.  Remember that more than 60percent of second marriage fail. If he is able to look the woman he vowed to spend his life with in the eye and lie to her, chances are that he is lying to you.

 GUILT: If you finally get this man to leave his wife and marry you. Are you ready to wake up everyday and be reminded that you shattered another life to make yours? Families bond through marriages. A former colleague of mine wants nothing to do with his father in-law who helped him when his business was struggling because his ex divorced him and the entire process was nasty. Can you look yourself in the mirror and smile each time the man goes to see his kids or when they are around without telling yourself that you tore that family apart?

YOU LOSE: Cheating men rarely commit. He will leave you high and dry when he begins to feel pressured by you.  You lose. Remember he could not handle his pressures at home and ran to you lying that his wife is his problem. His wife is not the problem. He is not man enough to face his problem that’s all and if his wife finds out he will say you led him on and tempted him. You still lose. You become town slut.